I can't believe I am already in my third week here in China! In catching up with friends and family back in the States, it seems crazy to be able to use the phrase "a few weeks ago..." -- time sure has flown!
Since my last entry, many things have happened -- things that have not only kept me busy, but also things that have given me much inspiration to write! I have been wanting to write a new post, but there are so many different things to write about, I'm not sure where to start. I've therefore decided to begin simply with a part 2 to my first post of Observations from last week. Ready? Let's go!
15. Mandarin/Communication. After just three weeks of barely studying the language, I am now fluent! Wow! Everyone understands me all the time! .....Just kidding. (Again, I'm hilarious.) I do know some helpful phrases now, though. I can tell taxi drivers where to drop me off when I am going home; I am starting to get a grasp on numbers, which is helpful when paying for things; I am slowly memorizing more vital phrases for the day-to-day; and I'm really good at telling people "Ting bu dong," which means "I hear, but don't understand." (I should probably just make that my Chinese name.) The thing is, though, as well as I say some of these phrases, most Chinese people see my foreigner face and automatically assume they will understand nothing I say. So, even if I state my community name to a taxi driver in perfect Mandarin or request to buy three apples without a bag from a vendor, many Chinese will still look at me like I'm an idiot. (The jury is still out on that one.)
16. Curiosity about foreigners. I mentioned in my last post that people stare, but my understanding of why they stare has evolved a bit in the last week. Sure, some will stare because I stick out like a sore thumb and clearly do not belong here. Others, however, will stare at me not so much because I look odd but because they are trying to figure me out. I've met a couple new Chinese friends in the past week who ask me right away where I am from and where my parents are from. They seem very interested in knowing what I am. In fact, many people are fascinated by my being half Mexican. (Fun fact: to be a "mix" makes you really cool, at least among the people I have met.) One friend, Lincoln, thought that I might be part Chinese because of my dark hair. "Well...no."
17. Ethnicity/Background. When I told Lincoln that my mother is Mexican and my father is German among other things, he asked where my parents are from. Upon that my mother was born in Mexico and that my father was born in Illinois, Lincoln became confused. "But he is German?" It took a few minutes for me to explain that my father's family is German (again, making a generalization for simplicity's sake) but that we have lived in the United States for many years. It seems to be an odd concept to many Chinese people, to be one ethnicity but live in a place different from your ethnic homeland.
18. Individuality. Although the younger generation is starting to deviate from this convention, many Chinese people don't like it, and they don't want it. Most want to be the same, and it is strange and distasteful if you strive to be different. (Baby, I was born different. ^_^ ) I'm thinking this has a little bit to do with a certain way the country is g0verned...
19. Rain. Yinchuanren have such an aversion to going out into the rain that you'd think they were afraid of it.
20. Meals. You know the grandma characters in family sitcoms or movies who always ask and say "Are you eating enough? You barely ate anything! Here, let me make you a sandwich," when they see a younger relative/person? Yinchuan is FULL of 'em! Honestly, I think there must be a conspiracy to get me to gain weight here. No one will ever let me be finished with my meal! I understand it's out of love and concern, but I'm telling you, ain't nobody wanna see my stomach explode.
21. Manly "protection." Ugh. This one is unfortunately going to take some time. The men here see it as their natural duty to protect women -- and not in a charming, chivalrous way. To me, a foreigner, this show of care and safekeeping feels more like babying! Even if I am several meters away from the traffic lane, a male coworker will literally put his arm around my outside shoulder to bring me farther from the traffic, as if I am unable to sense when there is a giant blob of metal hurdling towards me. And, even if I love the cold and also have a brain that can not only sense when a cool breeze becomes too much but can tell my arms and hands to put a jacket on myself, my male coworkers will instruct me to put on my jacket. "It is cold, Megan. Please put on your jacket." Literally. Again and again until I actually put my jacket on. At meals they will offer and continue to grab food from a dish for me when it is physically right in front of me and I don't want any yet. I'm sure the women here are used to it, but as a strong, don't-need-no-man-to-protect-me, independent woman, I am not a fan of this incidentally patronizing show of care. TYFL. (Thank you for listening.)
22. Traffic, part 2. Traffic signals and designated lanes are merely suggestions.
23. Pedestrian Lane. You know that saying, "Dance like there's nobody watching, love like you'll never be hurt, and sing like there's nobody listening"? If that were a popular motto in Yinchuan, they would have to add "walk like nobody's watching." I am thankful to have played my commuter card in Chicago for several years, both by walking and bike-riding, because that experience has trained me well to survive in the pedestrian lane. See, on the busiest streets of Yinchuan you have your normal car lanes, and then you have one big side lane separated by a big curb. My fellow Chicago bicyclists would rejoice at this...until seeing a horde of motorcycles, shopcarts, and sometimes a car coming towards them in the same lane. There is no order to this lane, only disorder. But the thing is, this disorder is normal and impossibly harmonious. Disorder is the standard. There are no expectations of people riding or walking in a straight and consistent line. If a motorist suddenly stops to check out the fruitstand or bucket of fish on the side of the lane (#drivethru), it's not a big deal to other motorists and cyclists. They show no emotion; they simply slow their vehicle and find another way around. Fish in a river, I tell ya. But it works!
24. Transportation/Efficiency. In another post I'll have to tell you about the lack of efficiency in the Yinchuan p0lice station and medical center (oy vey), but when it comes to getting multiple people from point A to point B, Yinchuanren mean business. One time I saw three people and two dogs on one scooter alone. Why make multiple trips in comfort and security when you can defy gravity and safety standards in one?
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| ^^An extreme of the human stacking I see every day. |
And, for those who have been wondering, yes, the loogies are still disgusting.
I've got a couple days of freedom ahead of me, so in my next post I'll catch you up on my first few days of teaching, my adventures at the hospital and police station, and the time when I hosted my first dinner and devotion night (spoiler: it was great!). Thank you all for reading, and talk to you soon!
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Mandarin Word of the Day: unique
Chinese characters: 独一无二 (独 = single, alone; 一 = one; 无 = without, nothing; 二 = two)
Pinyin pronunciation: dúyīwúèr
